Does this sound familiar? You get all dressed up for a party, feeling great about your look. But then, you arrive and notice a few others who seem to have outshone you. Their shoes might be trendier, their outfit more creatively assembled, or their overall look so unique that you wish you’d thought of it!
Even though you still feel good about yourself, it’s just not the same as before you saw those other people.
Why does this happen, and what can we do about it?
Many of us, women particularly, tend to compare ourselves to others. This includes comparing our appearance, body, achievements, and clothing. The problem with this habit is that it can make us perpetually dissatisfied. There will always be someone who seems cleverer, slimmer, younger, more stylish, or more attractive.
This comparison might lead you to constantly shop for more clothes and strive to wear something new every time you go out. So, how can you stop comparing yourself to others and be content with where you are right now?
Admire others’ creativity without comparing yourself to them. Appreciate their choice of colors or how they create their look, and take mental notes or photos for future inspiration. Recognize that your outfit is perfect for you at this moment—you chose it carefully, and it’s right for you now.
If you think you could have done better after seeing someone else’s style, view it as a learning opportunity. Accept that you did your best for now, and remember that you’re on a journey to discover and improve your style. Embrace the challenge of improving your fashion sense as a positive experience and give yourself credit for the progress you’ve already made.
Decide what matters most to you. Do you want to be the trendiest person at every event, or are you more interested in cultivating a classic, timeless look with fewer items? If the latter resonates more with you, accept that you won’t always be the hippest in the room.
Understand your style and body. What looks good on others might not suit you. Your body type might need a different silhouette, and your personal style might be less bold than the vibrant looks you admire. When you’re confident about what works for you, you’ll feel more secure in your outfit and less inclined to compare yourself to others.
What about you? Do you find yourself comparing to others? What are your tips for focusing on your own style and being happy with where you are right now?